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When Daddy is Down

I just read a report that says that black fathers are 50 percent more likely to be depressed than other men. I shouldn't be surprised, but I am.
 
Historically (if wrongly), we’ve considered depression a white-woman affliction. Black women were too busy to be depressed; there was certainly no time for a brother to be laid low.  Yes, we all got the blues from time to time, but we’d treat that with a rousing church service or a strong drink (or both) and keep on moving.
 
These days, depression research seems to focus so much more on women.  Seems like everything we do exacerbates the problem—our hormones make us vulnerable; pregnancy can trigger it—so depression becomes a woman thing.
 
But now here’s this report from the University of Michigan saying that a quarter of the black men they studied were depressed.

Of course, if you flip the numbers, that means that 75 percent of men were not depressed. Still, Black fathers are too precious a commodity for even a small percentage to be taken down by depression.
 
What can we do? The report acknowledges that this isn’t just a weakness or a failing among our men, so we can't just tell the brothers to "man up." The economy, the justice system, racism, poverty, lack of education and poor health are all linked to depression—and all these things affect black men disproportionately. But we can’t wait for racism to end or the economy to get fixed before we turn to our brothers’ mental wellness, either.
 
The saying goes, if you know better, you do better. Knowing black fathers are at risk means we won't ignore it when Daddy’s blues turn to indigo. We won’t assume his mood will fix itself. We'll encourage him to seek help. We won’t let him say no.
 
If you want to know more, check out John Head’s book, Standing in the Shadows: Understanding and Overcoming Depression in Black Men. In it, he uses his own story of depression and his considerable journalism skills to paint a picture of how and why black men get the blues—and how they can begin to heal.
 
When Daddy is down, we have to be down for Daddy.

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Briana Barner on Wednesday, December 08, 2010 10:04 PM
Many of the amazing men in my family, from my dad to the many uncles and cousins, silently suffer. My guy friends do as well. With the younger men, you can tell that they are depressed by the artists that they listen to. "Gangster music" is labeled as such for a reason. How many happy gangsters have you seen? They are all depressed and hurt, and the saying goes..."Hurt people...hurt people." That loud, booming bass that you hear as you shake your head disgustingly at the car of young men driving past? Angry, and depressed even further down in their spirit. Most of them fear that death is right around the corner from them, and according to the news and statistics, they are right. Most of them won't make it past 25. So when rapper Kanye West sings, "Life fast and die young," it's no surprise that many have made this the anthem of our generation. With older Black men, many of them are dealing with separation anxiety from being away from their children. I know very few dads who live in the same household as their children (my own dad is not included in this number). They don't have families, some of them aren't educated, work jobs that they don't like and are miserable but silenced because that's what men are supposed to do. They don't feel, right?
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Briana Barner on Wednesday, December 08, 2010 10:05 PM
Meant *live fast & die young
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essays help on Tuesday, April 23, 2013 2:11 AM
50 percent more likely to be depressed than other men. I shouldn't be surprised, but I am.
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uk essay writer on Monday, May 27, 2013 3:17 AM
Historically (if wrongly), we’ve considered depression a white-woman affliction.
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